As black women, nothing is more personal than our relationship with our hair. Ever since I was a child, I had a love-hate relationship with my hair that only another black woman would be able to understand. In a sense, our hair is our identity. We create it to fit our style. So how does this tie in with having good hair versus bad hair?

 I know most of you have seen the film Good Hair by Chris Rock; in my opinion, the film kind of hit a nerve with me. As a black woman, I love my hair, flaws and all. Just like every other race. We have good hair days and then there are bad hair days. I just thought he focused too much on black women not accepting the fact that they can never really have that “good hair.” My assumption could be incorrect but that is the way I perceived it.

Back in the day, it was thought that if you had straight or wavy hair, you were from good genes. You most certainly could not be 100% black because black hair does not behave itself. Black hair is thought to be unruly, unkempt, dirty, and unmanageable. I am just confused as to how this “theory” continues today. I still hear the terms “good” hair or “bad” hair. This is a form of self-hate within the black community that is still evident in today’s society. This has been going on for centuries; all because of our “kinky” hair.

I once heard two girls talking about the new school girl in the class. Keep in mind that all three of these girls are pure African-American. Girl #1 was asking girl #2 about the new girl who had long “kinky-straight” hair that reached her lower back. She wanted to know if that was all her hair. Girl#2 answered by simply stating that yes it was real and the new girl must be mixed because she has yet to see any black girls with long hair. Girl #1 responded by saying how she hated being black because black people have ugly hair with naps. Situations like this are still an everyday occurrence in 2012. I am not sure how to fix it but what we all can do is spread the word to our young African-American girls to love their-self.  Let them know that there is no difference between “good” hair and “bad” hair, only a difference in how we manage our hair. We have to put in their mind that black is beautiful.